by Jason Armstrong
Publication date : October 31, 2020
I have read The Happy Hypersexual from cover to cover. Having read Jason Armstrong’s other two books and loved them, I knew I’d be in for a big treat with this one too. First, I appreciate that a portion of the proceeds from the sale of this book will be donated to The Rainbow Railroad organization. The author’s dedication paragraph made me smile. Do not miss it. Personally, the first time I’ve ever heard the term Hypersexual was way back in the 1980s in The Golden Girls sitcom when Rose Nyland (Betty White) said to Blanche Devereaux (Rue McClanahan) “Beleive what you want, see if I care. Hypersexual bitch”. Back then the character Blanche Devereaux defined the term Hypersexual for me with her notoriously man-hungry appetite. The woman loved sex, lived for sex, breathed sex, and dreamed about it all the time! But at the same time, we have seen her be a responsible woman whenever the situation needed her to be so. I believe she is a fantastic example of a person being hypersexual especially for those who are not aware of the meaning of that term.
Hypersexuality and sex addiction are controversial subjects when it comes to specialists. Some doctors consider the thing a problem and others do not see any problem with having sex more frequently than the other people. This book is not about what is right or what is wrong, and it is not about judging those who identify themselves as hypersexual or those who don’t. It is about the author who identifies himself as a hypersexual in addition to being a solosexual and a pornosexual. It is another honest angle of the author’s personality that he sheds a light on for the reader to understand his personality and might even identify with.
There is a part of autosexuality that the author mentions and it makes sense. I feel every person might at some point in masturbation and arousal feel some levels of autosexuality within himself. The author’s perspective of this subject clicks with me. I feel a lot of men especially gay men might find this very relatable. Having a friend moving into your place will disturb your habits for sure especially if those habits are something that you cannot be open about casually like masturbation. Read the author’s experience when his friend Sarah moved in with him. I’m sure many readers will understand how uncomfortable such a situation can be no matter how close a friend is.
“As a solosexual, no man can really give me what I need as fully as I can give it to myself”
What I truly enjoy about the author’s writing is that he keeps things simple for the readers to understand. So those without any experience will not find any difficulty in grasping what the author means because he keeps providing examples out of his own experiences. Like how he explains pornosexuality. Pornography over the years has become an integral part of many men’s masturbation sessions. Like his previous books, Jason Armstrong does not shy away from coming out to the reader about being a porn addict or pornosexual. And this is completely understandable and relatable. Today, pornosexuality has become a culture and like a club. If you go on social media you can find that many gay men encourage each other or trigger each other with pornographic pictures that encourage bating to gay porn. It’s a fast-growing culture.
The part where the author corresponded with a psychotherapist is truly a fascinating read. It’s interesting to see the different perspectives. Bating and porn addiction can sometimes get out of control. But I feel the degree of harm that can cause is different from a case to another. A person sometimes deliberately wants to be out of control. It is like taking a break from life and its problems and getting into a different dimension that is more arousing and sexually appealing. “If someone follows you and gets out of control, it is not because you led them to the slaughter. It’s because they are out of control and need to look within” Makes sense.
Something the author mentions in this book is about the need to be acknowledged and seen. I think many men feel the same way too even if they are solosexuals like the author. There will always be this need inside you to be seen, and accepted sexually whether that is through normal hookups or online video chatting.
Like his previous books, this one too is well written and thought-provoking. Although this book is slightly shorter than the other books, it is by no means less important or less fascinating. I would highly recommend you read the author’s three books chronologically by release date as they will give you a better understanding of the subjects they discuss. Understanding your own sexuality will take some time but to reach that stage of understanding and being comfortable with yourself and what you identify as you also need to explore all your options as the author has done. I loved this book a lot and I hope Mr. Armstrong will release something new very soon.
Themes:
- Nonfiction
- Memoir
- Sexuality
- Masturbation
- Bate Culture
- Hypersexuality
- Porn Addiction
- Solosexuality
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