The Happy Hypersexual

by Jason Armstrong

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Rating: 5 out of 5.

Publication date ‏ : ‎ October 31, 2020

I have read The Happy Hypersexual from cover to cover. Having read Jason Armstrong’s other two books and loved them, I knew I’d be in for a big treat with this one too. First, I appreciate that a portion of the proceeds from the sale of this book will be donated to The Rainbow Railroad organization. The author’s dedication paragraph made me smile. Do not miss it. Personally, the first time I’ve ever heard the term Hypersexual was way back in the 1980s in The Golden Girls sitcom when Rose Nyland (Betty White) said to Blanche Devereaux (Rue McClanahan) “Beleive what you want, see if I care. Hypersexual bitch”. Back then the character Blanche Devereaux defined the term Hypersexual for me with her notoriously man-hungry appetite. The woman loved sex, lived for sex, breathed sex, and dreamed about it all the time! But at the same time, we have seen her be a responsible woman whenever the situation needed her to be so. I believe she is a fantastic example of a person being hypersexual especially for those who are not aware of the meaning of that term.

Hypersexuality and sex addiction are controversial subjects when it comes to specialists. Some doctors consider the thing a problem and others do not see any problem with having sex more frequently than the other people. This book is not about what is right or what is wrong, and it is not about judging those who identify themselves as hypersexual or those who don’t. It is about the author who identifies himself as a hypersexual in addition to being a solosexual and a pornosexual. It is another honest angle of the author’s personality that he sheds a light on for the reader to understand his personality and might even identify with.

There is a part of autosexuality that the author mentions and it makes sense. I feel every person might at some point in masturbation and arousal feel some levels of autosexuality within himself. The author’s perspective of this subject clicks with me. I feel a lot of men especially gay men might find this very relatable. Having a friend moving into your place will disturb your habits for sure especially if those habits are something that you cannot be open about casually like masturbation. Read the author’s experience when his friend Sarah moved in with him. I’m sure many readers will understand how uncomfortable such a situation can be no matter how close a friend is.

“As a solosexual, no man can really give me what I need as fully as I can give it to myself”

What I truly enjoy about the author’s writing is that he keeps things simple for the readers to understand. So those without any experience will not find any difficulty in grasping what the author means because he keeps providing examples out of his own experiences. Like how he explains pornosexuality. Pornography over the years has become an integral part of many men’s masturbation sessions. Like his previous books, Jason Armstrong does not shy away from coming out to the reader about being a porn addict or pornosexual. And this is completely understandable and relatable. Today, pornosexuality has become a culture and like a club. If you go on social media you can find that many gay men encourage each other or trigger each other with pornographic pictures that encourage bating to gay porn. It’s a fast-growing culture.

The part where the author corresponded with a psychotherapist is truly a fascinating read. It’s interesting to see the different perspectives. Bating and porn addiction can sometimes get out of control. But I feel the degree of harm that can cause is different from a case to another. A person sometimes deliberately wants to be out of control. It is like taking a break from life and its problems and getting into a different dimension that is more arousing and sexually appealing. “If someone follows you and gets out of control, it is not because you led them to the slaughter. It’s because they are out of control and need to look within” Makes sense.

Something the author mentions in this book is about the need to be acknowledged and seen. I think many men feel the same way too even if they are solosexuals like the author. There will always be this need inside you to be seen, and accepted sexually whether that is through normal hookups or online video chatting.

Like his previous books, this one too is well written and thought-provoking. Although this book is slightly shorter than the other books, it is by no means less important or less fascinating. I would highly recommend you read the author’s three books chronologically by release date as they will give you a better understanding of the subjects they discuss. Understanding your own sexuality will take some time but to reach that stage of understanding and being comfortable with yourself and what you identify as you also need to explore all your options as the author has done. I loved this book a lot and I hope Mr. Armstrong will release something new very soon.

Themes:

• Nonfiction
• Memoir
• Sexuality
• Masturbation
• Bate Culture
• Hypersexuality
• Porn Addiction
• Solosexuality

Getting Off: The Unlikely Chronicles of a Solosexual on PrEP

by Jason Armstrong

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Rating: 5 out of 5.

Publication date ‏ : ‎ July 31, 2019

I have read Jason Armstrong’s first book titled Solosexual. It was a great informative and tantalizing read. In Getting Off the author goes back to the penetrative sex with the help of PrEP which opened the door again to bareback sex in the gay community and culture. The book discusses how a gay man feels to be again part of sexual contact with a partner or a number of partners after identifying himself as a solosexual for many years. Jason takes us with him in this beautiful, sometimes difficult but definitely sexy journey to experience his real and raw emotions without any outer cosmetics.

Right from the introduction I was hooked by the author’s opinions and ways of looking at the gay community and what male sexuality means and weights in our current times. Many of his statements about the clichés and the public’s negative opinions about men do make sense. I loved his openness about his worries, about whether those readers of his first book would feel betrayed now that he is going to engage again with other men in penetrative sex. I don’t think readers would have that feeling. Personally, I was very excited to read and see how things have turned out for him with all that.

“Let me take you with me to those sex parties, strip clubs, bathhouses, gloryholes. Then, come back home with me to my man cave, where I am again blessedly alone with my cock to sort out all that has been witnessed and experienced”

Jason’s first time hiring a male escort is fascinating. He shows us the anticipation of it and then the vulnerability and insecurity when the time for the real action comes. All brilliantly written and explained. This shows that every experience we have can enrich us as human beings even the ones that aim primarily on sex. Then Jason goes on to talk about his first gay friend and his first time watching gay pornography. I think every gay man would be able to relate a lot to such experiences. His working experience at a video rental store really brought a smile to my face. I am glad that the author included his experience publishing his first book and how that made him feel emotional. The way he felt about that one negative review his book received is understandable, I am very happy how positive it all turned out for him eventually. 

Mr. Armstrong then dives deep into his sexual experiences that include a partner or multiple partners. Be it the subway dancer, or the daytime orgy which he gives us all the hot details! The solosexual man inside him eventually wins and makes him leave that orgy party heading back to his mancave. His time at the bathhouse using his bating trick is something interesting. Definitely, a way to break the ice and encourage others.

Porn – An Interlude is a chapter I loved reading a lot. Pornography addiction and embracing it with other gay men, encouraging each other to go deeper is something many gay men do today. The author’s taste in gay pornography matches mines too! Like him, I am also into piss which is why you see me reviewing sex stories that feature piss play quite often. Jason in this interlude questions many things about porn, himself, and adding a few of his own interpretations about porn performers. Such an amazing read! Again, the deep consumption that he wants sexually, to consume and be consumed, to worship the male form putting him on the highest possible level is what many gay men will feel relevant. I can feel and agree with all these raw emotions and sensibilities.

The presence of PrEP today has brought back the 1970s era. The bareback sex is back. The author goes on to give his opinion about it and how it helped him in making his sexual explorations somehow easier now that he feels a bit protected. There are three chapters questioning love and where does it fall in a solosexual man’s life. I doubt if every reader would be able to agree with how the author feels about not feeling lonely. Solosexuals will be able to understand that for sure. Remember, we are all different and have different needs and the author conveys this message here perfectly.

Despite being a little shorter than two hundred pages, this book is stuffed. Not even once I felt that something that I was reading was there just for the sake of filling pages like many nonfiction books suffer from. Every single word that the author has put on pages comes from the heart in its most honest and rawest forms. This kind of honesty I sensed as well in the author’s first book and continues here too. I have tried my best not to make this a long review. I know I have not covered many subjects like the author’s PNP experience and the conclusion of these experiences but those are better left out for you to discover. Whether this solosexual man continues these adventures or returns back to his comfort zone where he finds his true self that is for you to find out. What I’m encouraging you to do is to read this awesome memoir. I think it is fascinating a lot and can be relatable in a way or another to many men, gay or straight.

Many thanks to the author Jason Armstrong for providing me with a free copy of this book. I am leaving this review voluntarily after being sent the book.

Themes:

• Nonfiction
• Memoir
• Sexuality
• Masturbation
• Bate Culture
• PrEP
• Bareback Sex
• Group Sex

Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator

by Jason Armstrong

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Rating: 5 out of 5.

Publication date ‏ : ‎ January 24, 2016

If you have asked people about the definition of solosexual say thirty years ago, I bet not many would understand what that term means. I doubt if that term even existed back then. However, today we have the definitions and terminologies of many things that might’ve existed a long time ago but did not have a single word referring to them or defining them. Today solosexuality is not just a term but an actual culture that is being embraced by many men around the world. I am using men exclusively here not because females cannot be solosexuals but because from what I see around, men are more out about it and embrace it than females. I think the author focused on it that way too based on his own connections and experiences.  

Right from the prologue, Jason Armstrong takes us with him to one of his visits to a gay sex club with all the kinkiness and pigginess in the BDSM world of men. The fascinating questions that the author raises in his prologue make sense and I personally can relate to them as well. Why is that the memory of a particular sexual action more meaningful than the real-time experience? I think many men will feel this question relatable if they carefully think about it. At times we do sleazy things we might not enjoy a lot but the memory of doing that action will remain in our head and we keep getting off hard on it! Still not feeling this relatable? 

“The memory of a sexual adventure not only served as bate fuel, but my mind could also magically turn a negative into a positive.”

The author then goes on to shed some light on his own masturbation (bate) ritual. What does masturbation means to him and how it makes him feel compared to sex with a partner. Yet again, with the sleazy and charming writing style and complete honesty, I don’t see how any reader cannot feel the connection, especially gay readers. The exploration of the bate world is fascinating too. I have experienced that myself, the way men use dirty talk with each other, pushing buttons to encourage each other bate and lose their senses about everything except their penises. Many Twitter accounts are embracing this thing by tweeting bate encouraging pictures and memes relating to penis and porn addiction. 

The whole book is for sure a trigger warning for bators and porn addicts, but if you are one I guess you will always welcome such trigger warnings with open arms and legs! There is so much intimacy along with kinkiness in the author’s description about his bate sessions and how he starts them and what he tries to achieve in them. Jason Armstrong gives us a good lesson that intimacy does not necessarily need to happen with a partner. One can get really intimate with himself, his own body, and sex organs. People should understand that masturbation is sex too, not just a substitute for what they call the “real thing” i.e. sex with a partner.

Another important topic the author focuses on is the Bate Brotherhood, explaining the positive culture of this brotherhood as it is a culture accepting all kinds of men, smooth or hairy, heavy or skinny, black or white, and so on. It is just about men going deeper and deeper into penis worship and bating. The author always shares his own experiences with those who have no idea about the bating culture. The sense of belonging and connection is intense between bators. 

“We wanted nothing less than to smell each other’s pits in our beards, to huff poppers and worship dick together for hours, tying our dicks together so that we could feel each other’s every throb and pulse. We wanted to bond as men, filling the air with our combined manscent, inhaling each other, marking each other’s territory with piss exchange. Chain smoking our way through it and swapping the smoke, spitting into each other’s mouths. Ending in a heap of sweat, spit, cum and piss on our matted, hairy bodies.”

Several chapters are brilliantly written and explained that raise many questions inside your head be it the one that talks about self-love and how that one person’s imperfection could be the fetish of someone else’s. Then there is this interesting chapter that talks about masturbation addiction and the author’s perspective about it. The talk about religious ecstasy compared to sexual ecstasy is truly fascinating and how the two become one in a bate session sending a man to the highest level of bliss. There is a lot to read and a lot to think about. 

When it comes to nonfiction, especially those depending on the author’s personal experiences, I need to build a connection with the author through his words. I just love how honest and open Jason Armstrong is in expressing himself whether it is about his feelings, sexuality, or experiences. That honesty and openness created a strong connection between his writing and my mind especially because this is a subject not usually talked about openly and I don’t think it has been brought up enough in literature. After reading the first few paragraphs, I knew that I was going to get a lot from this book and enjoy it as well. I think many readers should read this book as it will make them think and ask questions about themselves, their feelings, and sexuality and their loved ones. It was a fantastic read for me.

Themes:

• Nonfiction
• Sexuality
• Masturbation
• Bate Culture